I’m wondering if you are like how I use to be… How many times has someone done something to offend you, hurt your feelings and you remain adamant about not forgiving until you receive an “Official Apology” from your offender. Sound familiar? I’m sure it does. Well, you know you can choose to forgive right away, hold onto it forever and be plum miserable in the process or just let it go and be free. All the while your offender has gone on with their merry life while You remain spiritually locked down from all you need in life to get you to your next level in life.
Honestly, how crazy does that sound to you, when put to you that way? Is Un-forgiveness really all that important to you that you would literally give up your hope , your destiny, your freedom to be who God created you to be? Ahhhh, just as I thought. I didn’t think so. I totally understand that it is human nature to retaliate and get back at the one who has offended you in some way or the other, rather than operate in Restitution Release. I know, I know…You are wondering what in the heck is Restitution Release. Well, I won’t make you wait – it is giving up your demand to receive an apology from your offender before you will even consider forgiving them.
Now, does that sound like something you may want to participate in? If so, it’s a really easy thing to do. Wanna know how you get it done?
Step 1: Acknowledge you have un-forgiveness towards your offender.
Step 2: Be willing to grow by letting go. (you’ll be so glad you did)
Step 3: Take note of the feelings that may tend to rise up for you when an offense has occurred. (Stay aware so you can declare your freedom) You may withdraw from that person or simply stop talking to them or you may even pretend things are okay until the next time you see them then here come all those negative feelings again.
Step 4: Pray, if you are having difficulty with any of the above steps.
Step 5. Repeat any of the above steps as needed to remain in Restitution Release.
I have a little bonus for you! Below you will find 5 Affirmations that continue to help me so I know they will do the same for you.
1. No offense is so great that I cannot forgive.
2. I am a Forgiver
3. I forgive and let go.
4.Forgiveness pushes me to all God has for me.
5. I forgive to release myself and others.
I challenge you to write these down on index cards or post it notes so you keep them in your face often enough throughout your day to make a difference when you need it the most.
Peace and Blessings to You and Yours.