Being a better you, didn’t really mean a whole lot to me until I went through a divorce. I choose my words carefully and say, “A divorce” rather than “my divorce” – the words that generally keep us stuck in a life of victim-hood. Before that time I was secure in the life I had, although not happy, I was secure. How many of us give up happiness for a false sense of security, I did for 20 years.
I often hear many say, “They just don’t know what happened” at the end of a divorce whether it’s a peaceful one or one full of an unhappy vacation to hell. Mine was the latter.
Let’s face it we can do ourselves a favor by admitting we had many danger signals before the journey ended, right. It seems to be human nature to hold onto things and people that we clearly know are not good for us. Why is that? For women, I know it’s a false sense of security we do not want to let go of or maybe everyone in your family has gone through a divorce and you are bound a determined to hold on. Just what are you holding onto?
- Roommate status vs. Loneliness
- Lost Identity vs. Uncovering You
- Demolished Self-Esteem vs. Empowerment
- Feeling inadequate vs. Knowing You Are Enough
- Someone to share the bills vs. You Being the Sole Bill Payer
- Accepting verbal abuse vs. Being Told You Are Good Enough
- Staying in an unhappy marriage vs. Giving someone else a Chance to Appreciate You
- Being a better you is the Answer…
These are just a few ways we tend to sacrifice and sabotage our life for the love of someone who gives no respect to you or perhaps your children.
Choose a life of Transformation, Expressing You, Letting Go of Pain, Breakthrough, Laughter, Creative Inner Healing, Joy, Radical Forgiveness and just plain and simple – Being A Better You.
Let’s talk about a subject many choose not to discuss because of the pain it brings up for them. I totally get that you don’t like to re-visit certain times in your life which brought you pain. I’ll be the first to tell you from personal experience, it’s a must. Allowing yourself to go back into the pained areas of your life is more healing than you could ever imagine them to be. Ask God to take you back to that painful time and allow you to feel and acknowledge what happened to you while there – with his guidance you can re-visit, feel the pain and witness the sting of those pains being removed. I’m not saying that you will not ever feel the pain again but you will be able to feel them without the paralyzing grip taking hold of you like they did in the past.
Once you have done this, it is much easier to forgive and let go of the people and the pain that has held you in bondage for so very long. I know you want freedom and the supernatural ability to get your life moving again. Take some time to reflect on what it is you really want for your life this year. We are in the first month of 2013 full of divine opportunities. If this article has inspired or touched you in anyway please head on over to my Face book Fan Page and leave a comment or two.
Wishing you be YOU,